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How Did I Get Here?

Detours to My Final Destination.

When I am at my highest and life is going great, when I find myself at my lowest, thinking things just couldn't possibly get any worse, I ask myself

"HOW DID I GET HERE!"

This is my memoir, one blog post at a time. Some days you will read and feel my pain and cry with me.  Some days you'll hate me for hurting someone who was innocent and probably didn't deserve the destruction I caused.

 

Stay, read, come back and feel free to comment.  I can take it, the good, bad and ugly things you have to say.  I'm finally at peace with my real story.  For a long time, I lied about my story.  I was always the victim when asked about my marriage and my husbands affairs.  I never did wrong and was never at fault. 

I'm laying it all out there, here's the truth of how my marriage fell apart. How I picked up the pieces of my life and moved forward to find happiness.

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Serve your hate with a smile

  • Writer: OhioHotMess
    OhioHotMess
  • Jan 3, 2019
  • 4 min read

Have an ex or biomom you fucking hate? Ever been divorced, dated a person who was divorced? Then THIS is for you.


Women especially hate anyone who has been where they're going or where they are. They size up not only the competition but also the has beens. I see my husbands ex and can immediately point out at least six flaws, or at least six things I will exaggerate and mock for hours on end. Why? Because it's what women do. Of course you can stand with the tribe of women who say they "fix each others crowns." This is a lie. Women don't do this, they just say this to make stupid women put their guard down so their crown can be stolen.


I am a deviant, hateful competitor. Half of the reason I got with my current husband was the chase, the conquest and ultimately the championship of stealing and making him mine. Does this make me the worse kind of bitch there is? Well yes, yes it does. Does it also make me honest? Yep, I am that to. I have done alot I'm not proud of and have had alot of shit done TO me. If there is a prize to be won, any lessons learned or regret for past transgressions goes out the window. I'm in it to win it, I will annihilate the competition.


My ex-best friend was this kind of bitch to. She was super sweet, complimentary, down played anything about herself all to make you put your competitive guard down. I mean come on, the girl set me up with HER SISTERS HUSBAND, WHILE THEY WERE MARRIED. It worked, I let my guard down started an affair and she swooped in and started fucking my husband. In the end, it worked out best for me, because I know how to play the game. The point is she also played the game, just not as well. Always know your competition and always have backup plans to your backup plan.


That best friend you have that asked to start "running" with you, then a month or so later starts suggesting you skip the run and go drinking, competition. The best friend who points out every single flaw of your spouse or new significant other, feeling threatened. Women will eliminate anyone and anything that takes the spotlight off of them. Is this every single woman you ever met? Probably not. Is it every single woman who knows what she wants and is pretty damn independent? You bet your ass it is.


I discovered I was this chick way back in high school. I would date someone and have luke warm fuzzies for them, they were eh' not amazing but would do. Then some other slut would act like they were going to steal him, all of sudden it would be game on and I was stepping up my LOVE game. Watch the women around you, the teen girls, the girls in college. Watch your best friends and how they behave with the men in your lives. Ever have just a guy friend who hung out with you and a girlfriend of yours, any girl doesn't have to be your best friend. See how she tries to one up you all of a sudden? How she starts making derogatory "jokes" about you, letting your most embarrassing moments slip in front of him. This is what I call the bitch method. Hating you with a smile.


If you find yourself behaving this way. Look real deep and ask why? I recognize this in myself when I feel less than someone else. I start feeling all insecure and yucky inside. Even if it is someone who is genuinely been a good friend. There's a trigger and I haven't found exactly what it is yet. Something sets it off. My ex-best friend set me off by making jokes, shit she knew wasn't funny. Putting me down but in a "hate with a smile" kind of way. She'd slide up beside my then husband and say how he had TWO wives. How nice it would be if we ALL lived together. Real fucked up shit. I let it go though because she was my best friend. After a while it got super annoying so when she suggested I date her sisters husband, sure why not. Which wasn't really fair to the sister. But whatever, I figured if it hurts her it'll eventually hurt you to. I was right. They haven't spoken in five years.


The thing about hate with a smile. You have to be committed to it. You can't half ass it. If you are trying this with your friend who you genuinely are starting to dislike, you need to ease into it. Make them look guilty and yourself as the victim. Believe me I learned from the best. My friend Mel was notorious for playing the victim, if it wasn't the victim she'd fall sick and need attention from anyone who would give it. She encouraged me to stop running and start drinking with her instead. I suddenly gained 60lbs in a year.


Here's a tip ladies, REAL FRIENDS do not flirt with your men, don't make unkind remarks as jokes, don't talk behind your back and don't compete for what you have. If your best friends favorite song is "girl crush" you have a Hater with a smile! You need to run or destroy her. Those are your only two options. I myself, am a destroyer, I am not to be fucked with. If I see you are out to get me I will put myself ten steps in front of you, ruin your reputation, help you lose your job and as my ex-best friend found out, lose your fiance, your sister and anyone else that means anything to you. Be careful of who you hate with a smile if you aren't good at it.


Need tips on revenge that doesn't get you arrested or hating with a smile, send me a message I'll be happy to help you out :) I've been through my fair share of shit and shady friends. Learned how to not take jealousy so personally and how to come out smelling like a rose. It's an art and takes careful planning.


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