The Scorned Wife

I read this article recently from a scorned wife to her husbands ex lover. I felt alot of things since I have been on both sides of this coin. The post was posted on https://www.yourtango.com/ and I have to question what the intent is.

When I discovered my husband had cheated on me I immediately felt anger AT HIM. Not at her, he represented himself as single. My particular situation may be different than this posters experience. Ultimately screaming at the mistress and calling her derogatory names, only makes you look pathetic and victimized.

She starts her letter, "Dear Slut" this made me literally laugh out loud. The mistress is the slut and the husband is what? The victim who was manipulated by this beautiful vixens cunning ways? Come on now! Put blame where blame is due. The mistress didn't enter into marriage with you in front of all your family and friends and GOD. HE DID!

The writer goes on to say "Why is that lady trying to take our daddy away?" These kinds of statements always rub me wrong. Daddy isn't cheating on his children, he's cheating on YOU, HIS WIFE. Daddy's don't promise to be faithful to children. Women need to quit identifying themselves AS THEIR CHILDREN. You are your husbands spouse/partner, not his fucking child. I know this statement is often made to incite guilt, sympathy and even rage from anyone that will listen to the wife scorned. Being cheated on is humiliating. I get it, we don't want to take responsibility for maybe not fulfilling our husbands needs, or not appreciating them enough. People are responsible for their own actions BUT I hate to tell you happy people don't look for someone to jump in bed with when they're busy nurturing a happy marriage.

The poster goes on and on about what a horrible, bad person this mistress is. How she probably has slept with countless numbers of men by now, because that's what sluts do. I'm not sure what this letter to the "slut" is supposed to accomplish, empower the dumbass wife who's keeping her cheater, or continue her humiliation by the way this comes off. I AM EMBARRASSED FOR YOU! This wife states how SHE WON, not his eight month relationship, what exactly did you win? Most people stay with their spouse after affair discovery because they're afraid of losing material possessions. AGAIN, happy people don't cheat, in love men don't cheat.

I hope your post made you feel better about your position in your husbands life, because I can see between all the insults to the mistress you still feel completely insecure in your position in your marriage. How's the trust thing going? I mean you say its been five years? You have to keep your phones unlocked, you question where he is, what he's doing, why he looked at the waitress that way? The animosity you showed in this post screamed BITTER JEALOUS INSECURE WIFE. Looks like buyers remorse.

Here's the link to the letter from The Scorned Wife if you'd like to take a look.

I may post my own follow up letter as "the slut" just to play devil's advocate, in the future.

https://www.yourtango.com/2016286361/letter-my-husbands-mistress-five-years-later?fbclid=IwAR1-bMV28uGxEk0Ox5nxgail9XNazvWq5VzrxIxedrA3_Cpy-rRnLPKSyUM